A 9-month program for self-aware women who know there is more life in them than they are currently living. An embodied path out of self-override and back into relationship with your body, desire and wild nature.
There is a woman underneath the one you have learned to be.
She is not better or higher. She just is a whole lot more of herself.
A woman with an animal body. Hunger. Instinct. Desire. Grief. Heat. A relationship with the living world. A capacity to be moved by life and to move toward it.
You may have spent years learning how to understand yourself, regulate yourself, take responsibility for yourself, make good decisions and keep your life polished.
Or maybe you are caught, just like I was, between Good Girl and Bad Girl, only feeling like "yourself" when you were far away from "home", straddling burnout and blowup.
That's because something in you wants more contact. And maturity.
Tend is a nine-month journey on the Wild Woman Path, for the one who has spent enough of her life being afraid of her own nature to know what it has cost her.
Where the Good Girl and the Bad Girl grow up into the Woman Who Tends.
We Begin November 2026
Imagine with Me:
Your emotions don’t take you out and your mind does not keep your trapped. You can be with yourself without numbing or rushing to fill the space. You trust you can ride the waves of your full spectrum nature.
Your relationships stop carrying the entire weight of your unmet desires. You become more able to know what you want, speak it, move toward it and survive the possibility that another person cannot or will not give it to you.
You heal your conditioned erotic disconnect and sexual shame. As a Wild Woman you know how to tend to your cycle, sexuality, and physicality.
You feel backed by your spirituality with no performance. Your Woo has Roots. No collecting identities to layer on top of your rawness. More relationship with the land where you actually live, ritual, mystery, death, beauty, food, seasons and the ordinary sacredness of having a body.
You take more risks with the life you actually have. You stop waiting to become sufficiently healed, confident or regulated before having the conversations you need to, making your art, changing direction, wanting what you want or entering the unknown.
Tend is the Wild Woman Path. Wild Women awaken from the ground up. We will move through body, descent, void, hunger, nourishment, eros, wildness, wisdom and surrender. This map will be your ally for life.
How much ‘expanding my capacity’ are you going to do before you realize you will never have capacity to live a life that isn’t meant for you?
How much “personal responsibility” are you going to claim before you admit you’ve been using it to avoid the risk of getting messy?
How “regulated” are you trying to become before you admit the Two Wolves inside you are just getting louder?
Being afraid of your nature costs more than feeling disconnected. Ask me how I know.
You negotiate with your knowing until you can barely tell what you want from what you have learned to want. And you can’t fully receive the blessings already in your life because scarcity says no matter what I am not enough.
You make yourself more easy-going and ‘understanding’ but slowly become harder for yourself to find.
You contain your life-force because anger, sexuality, hunger, grief, pleasure and audacity threaten the version of you that learned how to stay safe. You feel like a ticking bomb.
You cling to belonging in the spaces you have outgrown and give pieces of yourself away to remain included.
You spend years preparing to live with healing, regulating, understanding, improving, while the risks that might actually change your life remain untaken. The messy ones.
Eventually, the cost is not simply disconnection from yourself.
It is the life you do not live while trying to remain safe from your own nature. Only SHE can guide you there. The Feminine Force is the part of you that is instinctual, creative, emergent. She has been domesticated out of you. You need her.
The Tend Path
BODY
DESCENT
VOID
HUNGER
NOURISHMENT
EROS
WILD WOMAN
WISE WOMAN
SPIRAL WOMAN
Tend is a nine-month commitment to being in active relationship with this work.
We gather for three live calls each month, and I ask that you set aside a minimum of one hour each week for your practices, ritual assignments and integration.
Tend needs a real and consistent place in your life throughout our nine months together.
What We Practice Throughout the Spiral
Capacity for Sensation
Building your capacity to stay in contact with sensation, emotion, pleasure, intensity, subtlety and uncertainty. Embodiment Work.
Responsibility to Desire
Learning to hear, feel and honour what you want while remaining responsible for how you relate to and act on your desires.
Reception
Developing range to receive your life as it is and open to more.
Kinship with the Living World
Deepening your relationship with the land, seasons and more-than-human world, and your sense of belonging within it.
Shadow Work
Learning practices to navigate hidden impulses and repressed aspects of yourself that once given space for, become part of your wholeness.
Ritual Instinct
Developing sensitivity to the gestures, symbols and acts of ceremony that arise naturally through relationship with your body, soul, allies and the land.
Embodied Action
Allowing what you feel, know and desire to become consequential in the choices and movements of your actual life.
Investment
✺$4,860 CAD
Payment plans available: 3, 6, 9, 12 months. There are no scholarships for Tend.
The Calls
We gather three times each month throughout our nine months together. Generally on Wednesday evenings in ET. Subject to adjustment.
✺Depth
Going beneath the surface with our module of focus through ceremony, ritual, inner process, art, reflection and group witnessing.
✺Body
Embodiment practices that bring the work directly into the body. This may include voice work, mirror work, eating together, body mapping, and vulvar and vaginal somatic practices for pelvic awareness, tissue mobility and connection with the core and womb.
✺Coaching
Working directly with the material of your life as we move through each phase of the spiral.
The Telegram Space
Our private Telegram group is where we stay connected between calls. This is not an added bonus, it is an active space. It is our through line.
Tend is for the woman who can feel something wild looking back at her from inside herself and she is ready to stop looking away. |
Tend is for the woman who:
Can feel that there is more life in her than she is currently living and is willing to become responsible for what she discovers when she gets closer.
Is exhausted of understanding herself from a distance or through her roles. She wants practices that bring her into direct contact with her rawness and to move out of self-shaming and perfectionism.
Wants a spirituality that brings her further into reality, not further away from it. Into her body, relationships, mortality, ecology. Like I said, her woo has roots.
Is willing to be changed by her own participation. She does not need to know who she will become before she begins.
Has a foundation of self-awareness but wants to go beyond what she can see.
You DON’T Want Tend if you are looking for:
Someone to tell you what your intuition means or what choices you should make. I will guide you deeply, but I will not become the authority on your inner world. I have no interest in you becoming like me. I want you to become more you so your relationships feel authentic, you stop avoiding conflict, and you can extend yourself care even on the days you don’t like how your body looks.
A spiritual identity to put on. There is nothing particularly wild about performing Wild Woman. This work asks for contact, not a costume. Are you showing up performing or are you being real? Basic as that. Wild Women are as real as they are mythic.
Constant intensity. We are not trying to crack you open, chase catharsis or prove how much sensation you can tolerate. You might already be very good at that. Sometimes embodiment means how long can you be with your breath and let it be boring. The Wild Woman knows how to empty out without stuffing herself with more noise. How much you can handle does not give you a gold star.
Another program to consume from the sidelines. Tend asks for practice, experimentation, reflection and participation in your actual life. There is no garauntee you will have a transformation. You don’t apply because you hope just being in the space will be an easeful shift into Wild Woman. You will 100% be uncomfortable at different points of the journey.
You do not need another year devoted to fixing yourself or avoiding the call.
You need a devotional 9 month cycle to hear your nature and stop pretending she isn’t worth listening to.
9 Month Spiral
BODY : Are you here? Our first month is entirely for rooting into the senses, your presence, and widening your capacity to be with sensations. This is our foundation. Your relationship with Body is met and tended to here. Wild Woman is not a concept. She has a body. She belongs in herself.
DESCENT : Life can force a descent, you can resist, or you can learn how to go down and in by your choosing. This month is for getting below story lines and into shadow, symbol and the sensations calling to be met. The Wild Woman walks the edges. She is at home there. Here she meets what she has been believing about herself. Here she meets what may not be true at all.
VOID: This month is for the essential nutrient of not knowing. The Wild Woman can exist in a space where she unknows herself. Where she is willing to unbecome without immeditately filling the space. She needs room to just be. To sense. To not know. Your relationship with emptying out lives here. This is the place you crave when you say “I just need to slow down” but you don’t.
HUNGER : The Wild Woman has appetite. Her appetite moves her. This month you connecting to your relationship with desire, hunger, and scarcity. You face the rumblings you have been feeling for quite some time and bring voice and teeth to your desire, wants and needs.
NOURISHMENT: When you descend, you find what has been calling out be met with nourishment, compassion and agency. And the ways you are already nourished? This month you learn to receive it more fully. What feeds me? What am I nourishing myself with? These are guiding questions. The Wild Woman is connected to her nourishment.
EROS : The month of opening to your erotic nature, untangling from eros as a sexual performance, and claiming your raw, uninhibited, unique frequency of how the erotic moves in you. Without Eros, Hunger is feels like a bottomless pit of never-enough. Desires of all kinds feel threatening. Eros feeds you and does not need you to feel perfect to receive it.
WISE WOMAN : From the rich foundation you have been tending, and from your expressions as Wild Woman, you tend to Wisdom. That which is gathered through experience and relationship with self, other, earth and God. You will create a bond with the Wise Woman. She walks her life connected to death and illness, faith, courage and grit.
WILD WOMAN: By now on the path you have been gathering energy. Energy that may want to express as art or distruption, play, or creation. This month is all for moving out of your own way and letting yourself take actions that come from the Wild Woman. She’s responsible for her desires, backs herself and goes for it. She faces fears of unbelonging and being outcast. She does not perform her wildness for attention. She lives her wildness because it is true.
SPIRAL WOMAN : In our final month together, you tend to integration, endings, and continuing on. Spiral Woman can end what is no longer true, she can leave, she can move on, without villianizing where she was and who she has been. This month is all about your relationship to your life as a path, not something you can get perfect. Tend ends but you continue on with your own version of the Wild Woman alive inside of you.
You don’t really need Tend. You Want it.
That is who I have created this for.
Your Guide, Maxine Iharosy.
I have been around transformational spaces enough to know that sometimes we say Yes to a journey coming from, yet again, the same wound of I am not worthy, I need to belong, I need to fix myself. The Wild Woman is beyond this. She is an embodiment that the path of Tend leads you into. She is an ally to you. She is the part of you that can turn towards her vulnerabilities and love herself there, be honest about her shadows, and refuse to limit herself based on what happened, or did not happen. She is not just one expression. She is Wild. Out of bounds.
I have been a caregiver addicted to cannabis and self-neglect. I have been the center of attention while despising it. I have been a chronic monogamist while being deeply terrified of intimacy.
Depth and Body have always drawn me in.
My earlier years as a guide began with teaching yoga before I moved into Somatic Coaching and Somatic Experiencing training. Over time, I became increasingly interested in a tension I saw in myself and in other women:
When you try so hard to be good, there is often a part of you that feels very bad.
I spent years swinging between the two. I became a self-proclaimed master of fawning, or adaptive people-pleasing organized around keeping the peace and staying connected.
Under the surface? I was resentful. I felt unseen and unknown. And I was very tangled in my own mind.
I work with women who feel this creative internal tension.
Beneath the surface, they can feel as though they could birth and destroy all at once. There is enormous life there, but very little permission for it.
When we become nervous about our own intensity, we can leave the body. We become floating heads. We lose contact with the lower body, our groundedness, our instincts and the sensations that tell us what we actually want.
When you reject your own nature, you can become very busy tending to the needs and expectations of everyone else.
Our relationship with sexual energy can become tangled too. You may use sexuality to secure attention and belonging, or distrust and fear that part of yourself altogether.
This territory of body, desire, shadow, vitality, nature, relationship and the tension between what we contain and what wants to live, is at the heart of my work.
I am a hunter, a lover, a gardener, a writer, a witch and a devotee of the Great Mother, particularly the Dark Feminine or She who is at home in mystery.
I love family histories, rocks, herbs and driving down old dirt roads. I am introverted and do not appreciate unexpected visitors. I am also very capable of winging it and have earned the nickname Agent of Chaos from my beloved.
Taurus Sun and Rising. Scorpio Moon. 5/1 Emotional Projector in Human Design. INFP.
If any of that means anything to you, you can probably see that internal tension is a theme for me.
I live between mountains and sea in Canada, where I also guide in-person Ceremonial Immersions for women to descend with the land.
I am here for the expression of your vitality.
—Maxine
